So, I’ve been discussing this with a lot of women and it seems to be a very common problem. More common than it should be actually. Foreplay. Why do some people just completely say fuck it and try to dive into some shit? Like for real, if you knew you were MAD hungry and wanted some pizza would you just throw it in the cold oven without at least letting the oven heat up???? No? You sure? Aw okay. It’s the same concept with women.
It’s not always a given when there is sexual tension that a woman will be hot n ready like a Little Caesar’s pizza. Some times if you’re lucky she will want the dick just as bad as you. Other times she wants to feel some type of love from you. Kiss her neck, suck on her breast, finger her, give her some head, or even massage her.
Men have this habit of already wanting a woman wet when they have sex and will shame her if she isn’t. Or if you try and kiss her for a few seconds then stick it in and it may be a little bit wet, but then too many thoughts are going through her head so she can’t even fully relax the way she wants to. Then you’re getting mad or upset because she dries up in the middle of sex and when she asks for assistance, if that happens at all, you make her feel like shit because of it. Like look just let go of your ego and take the time to truly love on her and appreciate her. Women like to feel like you wanna take the time to enjoy them and enjoy the moment you’re sharing. Whether it be fucking or making love. Or even if it’s a one night stand. The way our brains are wired we need some type of physical contact in order for us to be relaxed enough to get wet.
Then the crazy part is foreplay doesn’t even have to be sexual contact, it can be cuddling, making her dinner, ordering some takeout and watching movies, running her a bath, running errands for her, or even talking over a glass of wine. Those small things will make a woman want to fuck the shit out of you no lie. But all those things alone can make a woman feel genuinely appreciated and thought of. They will help to relax her knowing someone cares enough to take the time out their day to do something like that.
When a woman’s spirit feels the love she is being given she will aid in her juices flowing like water. Sometimes there are even some women that love to please their man and that alone can get them wet. Me personally giving a man head helps me. Don’t get me wrong I love to be held tight, neck kisses, receive head, all that. But I genuinely love it. It’s weird because it’s almost relaxing in a way. Some women out there may feel the same way some may say “you know what I may just have to try that”. Speaking of trying, one thing that is amazing foreplay, if you’re into it is watching porn. Seeing another couple fuck each other can really help, it’s almost like a virtual swingers’ club if you think about it the only difference is not having to leave home.
With watching porn, you have the possibility to find new ways to have sex, take notes from the porn or role play and use that as a form of foreplay, even find new ways to please your man or woman by oral sex will be a huge help.
Then speaking of oral sex if you wanna include food into foreplay having some whipped cream and strawberries, feeding them to one another can be a big thing, or taking the whipped cream and putting it on each other and licking off one another’s bodies. Another that’s a huge favorite of mine is the fire and ice head. You take a peppermint and put it in your mouth suck on it for a little bit then put some ice in your mouth as well and slowly massage the head of your man’s penis with your tongue slowly going up and down. As the ice starts to melt let it drip down the shaft and as you’re coming down twirl the peppermint around it. Using this combo of the ice/peppermint will create a hot and cold feeling. The coldness from the ice will enhance the peppermint, as the warmth from your mouth melts the ice. So, he’s constantly feeling the hot and cold, it will be a sure thing to make him have an orgasm. Maybe while doing this so you both will be ready for each other at the same time, he can finger you while massaging your clit, or if you’re into it have him stick a thumb in your ass while fingering you. Just be mindful though between you sucking his dick and him fingering you, one of you may be bound to have an orgasm before the other and that’s perfectly fine.
As long as you know in the midst of this foreplay both people’s main concern was making sure the other was in the mood or relaxed that’s all that truly matters.
Lastly, taking a shower together. This is probably one of my favorite forms of intimacy because, it’s so many different senses being stimulated all at one time. The touch from the other person grazing across your body, letting the hot steamy water fill the bathroom as it hits your skin, the sweet taste of your partners lips, the aroma of the soap filling the shower. So many things that make a huge impact on what’s about to take place once you get out the shower. Even better there is no self-conscious feeling on if you smell good or if you may or may not have a scent since you both showered together.
Now keep in consideration all this doesn’t have to be done at one time but, it’s a good start for both the man and the woman. Just always be mindful and remember to take the time out to really love your partner and just truly admire them whether it be sexual or an act of service. These small things can go a very long way……
One of my second most highly requested topics was oral sex. Whew now I’m gone say this as a disclaimer for my family reading either take some of these tips or sit on the sidelines and mind ya business lol. Now oral sex, some like giving, some like receiving. Some don’t like doing it at all. That’s okay, it ain’t for everyone. Me personally I like sucking dick more than receiving because, it’s like foreplay to me. For some reason it gets me warmed up and I’ve been told I do it with such a passion it doesn’t even be so much of how good I do it. It’s the fact I do that shit like I love it.
Now I can’t really speak for men in terms of how to eat pussy, except when your girl is telling you to do a certain thing DO NOT DO THE OPPOSITE. Also, I feel like with eating pussy especially unless you’ve truly studied a woman and how she masturbates and just how she makes herself orgasm the things you do are for your ego and not so much her benefit. Even if it’s not your first-time eating pussy always ask her what are things she likes, how does she like it, ask her where she wanna get her pussy ate. Never act like you King to this shit you always wanna get a womans opinion. Secondly, men please please please stop licking our damn vagina just stop. Unless your tongue is as wide and long as your dick please cut the shenanigans. I can’t really speak for most women but if I’m gonna get head I wanna fucking come. Fuck the bullshit. A lot of women always say ugh girl you don’t like head you missing out I love that shit. Don’t get me wrong I like it but I have yet to have anyone actually make me come from it. I was watching a video from this guy on Instagram @hunitdaysofsummer and he explains how he observed how women play with their clit and just the movement and all that. It wasn’t until he learned to mimic that, that he made multiple women orgasm back to back. Now men how many of y’all can say with no hesitation if need be you can make a woman come guarantee just off head? Yes? No? Like if your girl came to you now and says I got something for you to eat you can have her ass shaking begging you to stop because how bone chilling her orgasm is?
Another thing that I personally love is when I’m getting head and the guy is playing with my g spot. Most don’t know the clit and the g spot are legit the same exact thing. One is just internal one is external. When you’re giving your woman head next time you eat her out use your tongue to mimic the way she plays with herself and as you do this finger her but focus on her g spot and I swear to you she’s guaranteed to orgasm. Even so which brings me to, a lot of of people don’t know even when you’re fucking a girl she doesn’t come off vaginal penetration it’s because you’re stimulating her G spot from the inside. Which is why when we moan out and scream you’re hitting my spot we tell y’all stay right there and don’t move.
Okay now, that’s enough on how y’all should be eating our pussy. Ladies, sucking dick. How many of y’all do it just because your man likes it? How many do it because you simply love it? Most women I’ve asked stated they do it because they love doing the shit. They love how it feels in their mouth, how it feels when they’re sucking and feel that shit growing. That’s why when given it’s done with such a passion. Another thing that helps you suck dick so much better is do it like you French kissing the dick. Lick the head, play with the balls, deep throat it, then when you get it deep enough use your throat to suck it and move the dick with your throat. That shit alone gone have the man toes curling I swear to you. As you do this too hum on the dick so as your throat is squeezing on it he can feel the vibrations too. When you come back up take a deep breath and jack the dick off while it’s nice and juicy. Then while you got him on edge suck just on the head alone. See for men the head of their dick is truly just an enlarged clit so ladies go fucking crazy.
Another huge thing is pay attention to his body language, to how his dick feel when it stiffens in your mouth. This will help eliminate any need for talking unless you one of those who dick is this daddy females then sis go the fuck off then.
One more thing that I want you to try if you haven’t already is Fire and Ice head. This is my personal favoriiiite, grab you a bowl of ice a couple peppermints suck on the peppermint first for a bit and put some ice in your mouth. Pretty much repeat the steps above and I promise your man will love you for it. The cold from the peppermint and ice and warmth from your mouth plus deep throating will have the man wanting to flip you over and satisfy his hunger.
Now I am not responsible for any pregnancies, lock jaw, or sore throats this blog may bring. So eat pussy and suck dick responsibly folks 👅💦
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