“You’re pretty……for a black girl”. As if that half assed compliment was supposed to be accepted by you. I don’t think too many people realize how often black women get told this. Or the one that’s heard more is “You’re pretty for a dark-skinned girl”. As if in order for black women to be beautiful they have to be of lighter complexion. I remember I was having a conversation with my cousin and she was telling me how several men would randomly inbox her and ask her to have their babies. First off who the fuck are you? Secondly ummm no? Or one thing she’d get often is we’d make some really pretty babies. Not even taking the time to get to know her as a person or look past her looks. Just automatically assuming when she heard that she would take it as a compliment and blush at such a thing. You see black women are always seen as something to look at or for some looked at as eye candy and nothing more. Even in music videos black women are never truly shown in a positive light. If so it’s the lighter toned women that are given the respectable roles. Not saying this is always the case, but growing up that’s what I always seen.

Even so you ever realized a good majority of celebrity men only have lighter skinned wives and girlfriends? That’s not to say there aren’t any that have dark skinned wives, but it’s not often seen. There was even some comments made that stated when Chis Brown was in the club and he stated that women of a darker complexion weren’t allowed in the section. That alone caused an uproar among so many people, then most tried to say well its okay for men to have a preference. Yeah, you’re right he can have a preference just as any other man but you don’t gotta bash or verbally abuse another woman of color in order to do so.

It’s just as bad as the fact that darker skinned women are viewed as a “trend” right now. The only time they can be seen in a positive light is if they’re half naked, dripping in baby oil, or if they have on makeup. Since when was it deemed necessary for those women to need all these things in order to be seen as beautiful?

Then that doesn’t even begin to explain how lighter skin black women are treated. Yeah it may seem at though their treatment is better but they tend to only be seen as a trophy wife or only as nothing more than a pretty face. What’s even worse is I’ve heard my red bone friends say how some men had this sick obsession with wanting to have children by them because they would be soooo beautiful or how they didn’t want to have a child that was dark. So in order to avoid that they made sure they procreated with a woman of a lighter complexion. Like damn how bad do you have to be that you only seek out light skin women to have your children by? No woman light or dark should ever feel like their worth is based on the depth of their skin color. We are beautiful without the baby oil, extra makeup, little to no clothes, or anything that is used as an accessory when we are beautiful regardless.