As I rushed out the room I realized I left my jacket…fuck. I can’t go back in there. What if she heard him? What am I gonna do if she finds out we had been fucking all this time. I stood outside pacing back and forth. I could still feel my juices running down the side of my leg. Fuck I wanted more. But was it worth the risk? I went back in their home and headed straight to the room. I peeked through the door only to see him tied up to the bed and her sitting on top of him. Ummmm I said under my breath. I know that dick must feel amazing inside her. Her pussy lips grabbing on that dick taking it in and out. I stood there watching as my juices started flowing again. I lift my dress up to have a taste and I could taste her cherry lipgloss still on my clit.
She must’ve heard me at the door…ahhhh fuck as she throws her head back. She turns to me with these lustful eyes. She must’ve not heard what he said as she signaled me back into the room. As I stepped all the way in I could see he was blindfolded. She signals me to sit on his face…I was hesitant but she insisted. So I snatched my clothes back off and did as she said. But not without putting my juices on her lips. She looked at me and smiled. I climbed onto the bed and proceeded to sit on his face. Awwww fuck. I forgot how warm his tongue is. He must’ve tasted her cherry lip gloss and asked if it was her. She smiled at me and said no baby it’s Jay. He chuckled and said back for more I see.
I sat there rolling my hips on his tongue smiling as he grabbed my ass. I tell Sherry to lean in and kiss me. As we start kissing I can hear her juices on his dick. She starts grinding on him harder, listening to the sound of her juices turns me on so I start fucking his face even harder. Sherry starts screaming that she’s about to come. I yell for her to stop. She looks flushed and confused. I tell her to get off I wanna come with her. She listens and gets off his dick I tell her to start grinding on my clit. As she gets Inbetween my legs I can feel her clit throbbing on my pussy. I tell her to take his blind fold off so he can watch.
She sat there doing that same rolling motion on my clit…awww fuck her juices feel so warm. She says to me Jay your pussy is so soft…as she kept rolling her hips she starts going faster. I’m fucking her back as I feel her pussy starts throbbing. She yells I’m about to come, so I push her off of me and start sucking the shit out of her clit. She’s screaming as her body starts convulsing and her juices are shooting onto my titties. Ummmmm I hear from him in the background. I start fingering her again as she’s coming while sucking on her clit. I start moaning as I’m fingering her and I can feel her tightening up screaming I’m about to come again.
He looks me in the eye as I’m fingering her. I can’t help but imagine how it would feel to have him inside me again…so I start moaning on her pussy even louder. Next thing I know she’s grabbing my hair grinding her clit on my tongue and we’re enjoying every minute of it. She yells out one last time “fuuuuck” before her body collapses. She barely able to move unties him and tells him to help me get cleaned up. Right after that she passed out. As I walked into the bathroom he follows me to show me where everything is. I go in and grab one of Sherry’s hair clips and a towel. I start taking my earrings off and I feel someone come up behind me. But the mirrors are foggy so I can’t see who. I laugh and say Sherry I thought you were knocked out. Until I turn around and see it’s him.
My heart is pounding so fast it feels like it’s about to beat outta my chest. He sits me on the counter and tells me to be quiet and lean back. I grab my wash towel to bite on so I won’t be so loud. He goes down and starts slowly sucking on my clit. As he’s sucking I feel my hips raise he pushes them back down and scoots my pussy deeper into his tongue. I start biting the towel even harder until he pulls me off the counter and instructs me to bend over in the shower. I tell him no we can’t…but my body says differently. I stand there still smelling the scent of Sherrys soap. He bends me over and stuffs my tight pussy with every inch of that thick ass 9 inch dick. Ummmm, this pussy still feels exactly how I left it. He proceeds to fuck me slowly, I try to reach the towel but he puts my arm behind my back and tell me to spread my ass. He sucks his thumb and begins rubbing on my asshole. Ahhhh shit. He sticks his thumb in and starts fucking the shit outta me. I’m standing there trying to throw it back and he tells me stop moving I’m gone make him come. So I stand there in tears trying to fight back my moans. Lawd this dick feels so fucking good.
I look back and tell him to give me all that juicy dick. I wanna feel it inside my stomach. He smiles and goes deeper…as he starts fucking me harder he takes his hand and starts grabbing my neck. Shit I can feel myself creaming. He looks down and says “yeah take all this dick for daddy. Ummm I love it when you come for me. That’s right this your dick. Come as many times as you want to. Ummm your pussy look so pretty bouncing off my dick.” I yell, cállete la boca papi. Antes de que te ecuche. I start fucking her even harder cause she knows I love when she talks me to like that. I reach to grab her towel and stuff it in her mouth. I can feel her pussy throbbing the harder I fuck her. Shit I’m about to come, but her pussy feels so warm I don’t wanna pull out. Fuck it. I start grabbing her long brown hair telling her to spread them pussy lips so she can take all this dick.
She reached her hand back to spread it and as soon as she does I go deeper. Fuck fuck fuck I’m about to come, before I can pull out my shit start shooting inside of her. She pulls off me and starts sucking my dick. What’s left she catches it in her mouth and swallows as she sucks on my balls. Fuck my legs start shaking. She knows I hate it when she does that. She looks up with those beady eyes and smiles. I go to grab a towel to dry myself off when I hear “hey baby are you in there?”……
I was recently talking with a
friend and love languages came up in the conversation. So as we were talking I
said, “You ever realize there’s love language when it comes to sexual
intimacy?”. Let’s look at it like this for example, she stated one thing she loves
during sex is Words of Affirmation. By that meaning, being told your beautiful
during sex, saying I love you, complimenting your body, or overall being
engaging during sex verbally in a way it makes your partner happy.
See one thing I feel both men
and women struggle with is knowing that love language IN the bedroom along with
outside of it. Now there may even be times you’ve tried something on someone
else and you think, ummm I wonder if this person will like it. So instead of
verbalizing if you wanna try something new or asking have you ever had this
done and how did it make you feel? You take the initiative and allow your ego
to take the wheel and do it, only to get your feelings hurt because the person
doesn’t like that so you’ve spoiled the mood for yourself.
Just as with words of
affirmation comes other love languages and how they are incorporated during
sexual intimacy.
The second being physical
touch. Yeah that may seem a bit self explanatory but some people love to be in
certain positions that require a lot more physical contact than usual. Or that
person could love when you kiss them during sex, when you’re performing oral
sex and you grab their waist or caress their breast. Sometimes they just need a
little extra attention in that way. Hell for some it could even play a huge
role in them orgasming.
Then there’s acts of service.
Now some might say how is this possible. With this it can be if you know your
partner loves oral sex or they love when you take your time and take their
clothes off during sex to admire their body this could be an act of service.
You’re doing something that you know they love or something that makes them
feel good. Or even giving them a back rub before, during, or after sex.
Next there’s Quality Time,
with this one it could simply be taking the time out your day to make sure you
get in some love time with that person. You know they love to have sex or just
the feeling they get from being intimate with you but you also know you have a
busy schedule. So taking that time out planning something nice. Going out to
dinner and a movie followed by dessert at home. Him/her being the dessert lol.
But just making sure that persons needs are being met and they feel as though
there is time and effort being put into that.
Receiving Gifts. This one can
be a bit tricky. But one way you can incorporate this is by buying them some
new lingerie, or if you know that person loves when you wear a certain cologne
or perfume during sex surprising them with that. Or for those that love to
involve food in foreplay. Buying some chocolate covered strawberries and having
some roses lying on the bed waiting for them. Or while you’re out grocery
shopping and you know tonight is your anniversary so you stop and get them
their favorite wine for your night ahead. Doing things like that can really
help in terms of them receiving gifts and even make them feel more loved
knowing you did something nice for them all while bringing it into the bedroom
to make the evening a bit more special.
Now depending on the person
all of these things can be incorporated but if you know that person loves being
told they’re beautiful or complimented make that your focus for that moment in
time. It’s okay to get the roses and making time for them but let their number
one love language be at the fore front. When that person feels their needs are
being met not only outside the bedroom but in as well they’re bound to love you
even more.
Everyone has this love tank
so to speak that requires certain needs to be met. Now this isn’t to say it’ll
be possible to be met all the time because shit happens and life happens. But
what’s important is taking that time out and making that person a priority when
it comes to making them feel loved in whatever way they need to be loved. That’s
why it’s always important to know their love language that way it makes things
easier on you and will help the relationship go a lot smoother.
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Okay, so everyone knows or assumes in order for any relationship to thrive sex is a necessity. You gotta give it to your man 2-3 times a day, every day of the week, no matter if you’re up for it or not….but the real fucking question is who came up with this shit? Who sat here and said it’s completely okay to dismiss a persons feelings and mental well being for the sake of making sure someone else is happy?
Now I briefly went over sexual abuse in my blog “Abusive Relationships” but didn’t dive into it too much. Most will say it’s not possible to be raped in a relationship because when you get into one you’re forfeiting any rights to your body. Now this isn’t just one sided men and women do this. As much as I don’t want to admit it I’m guilty of this. But, to say the least I think we all are. If you’re horny or in a mood it’s not your girlfriend, boyfriend, partner, or spouses responsibility to “take care” of it if they tell you or you see they’re not in the mood. The thing where this becomes a problem is people’s ego gets involved and they can’t respect the other persons boundaries.
How many times have you told your partner not now, I’m not in the mood, or I just wanna cuddle then they still take it upon themselves to pull your pants down in your sleep even though you said no? Those I’ve asked about this have just said they didn’t mind because they ended up wanting it anyway. But what does that end up saying about that person not respecting your boundaries that you set? Do you feel like that makes it okay just because you’re in a relationship with them? Is that an excuse for them to violate your body?
Don’t go all she’s being extreme it’s not even that serious. Yeah to you it may not be, but to the woman who’s unhappy and simply had sex with her husband because she knows that’s the “role” she’s supposed to play it may be serious to her.
Or hell even the women in the 50’s who were clearly unhappy and wanting to leave. But didn’t because they couldn’t even provide for themselves so they had no choice but to be submissive to their husbands.
Hell even men. We know men generally won’t even verbalize they aren’t in the mood, or women know sex will always make them feel better no matter what. So regardless to the mood that the man is in she will always let sex be an option. But, as a man how exactly can you let your woman know you’re not up for sex? Or if you’d rather just lay up and watch movies with her. Without her assuming you want it to lead to more than that?
To me it seems like unless boundaries are enforced from day one, when in the heat of the moment what could be seen as playing “hard to get” can easily be taken as oh I’m gonna have to take it. When in all actuality there isn’t shit to take. If that person says they don’t want sex it’s not up to you to decide if there is some underlying answer in-between the answer that was already given. This alone is why communication is essential and necessary so that there isn’t any confusion on what’s being said or any of their actions that could possibly be misconstrued.
I’m sure when most read this they won’t agree because, rape is a serious word to be thrown around and if it boils down who is going to believe a man or woman when they tell someone their boyfriend or girlfriend raped them? They’ll take it as a joke then follow it up with “but was it good?”….because that’s really the question someone wants to hear….I hope you were able to take something from reading this and truly understand how important it is to respect the other persons boundaries…..
So, I’ve been discussing this with a lot of women and it seems to be a very common problem. More common than it should be actually. Foreplay. Why do some people just completely say fuck it and try to dive into some shit? Like for real, if you knew you were MAD hungry and wanted some pizza would you just throw it in the cold oven without at least letting the oven heat up???? No? You sure? Aw okay. It’s the same concept with women.
It’s not always a given when there is sexual tension that a woman will be hot n ready like a Little Caesar’s pizza. Some times if you’re lucky she will want the dick just as bad as you. Other times she wants to feel some type of love from you. Kiss her neck, suck on her breast, finger her, give her some head, or even massage her.
Men have this habit of already wanting a woman wet when they have sex and will shame her if she isn’t. Or if you try and kiss her for a few seconds then stick it in and it may be a little bit wet, but then too many thoughts are going through her head so she can’t even fully relax the way she wants to. Then you’re getting mad or upset because she dries up in the middle of sex and when she asks for assistance, if that happens at all, you make her feel like shit because of it. Like look just let go of your ego and take the time to truly love on her and appreciate her. Women like to feel like you wanna take the time to enjoy them and enjoy the moment you’re sharing. Whether it be fucking or making love. Or even if it’s a one night stand. The way our brains are wired we need some type of physical contact in order for us to be relaxed enough to get wet.
Then the crazy part is foreplay doesn’t even have to be sexual contact, it can be cuddling, making her dinner, ordering some takeout and watching movies, running her a bath, running errands for her, or even talking over a glass of wine. Those small things will make a woman want to fuck the shit out of you no lie. But all those things alone can make a woman feel genuinely appreciated and thought of. They will help to relax her knowing someone cares enough to take the time out their day to do something like that.
When a woman’s spirit feels the love she is being given she will aid in her juices flowing like water. Sometimes there are even some women that love to please their man and that alone can get them wet. Me personally giving a man head helps me. Don’t get me wrong I love to be held tight, neck kisses, receive head, all that. But I genuinely love it. It’s weird because it’s almost relaxing in a way. Some women out there may feel the same way some may say “you know what I may just have to try that”. Speaking of trying, one thing that is amazing foreplay, if you’re into it is watching porn. Seeing another couple fuck each other can really help, it’s almost like a virtual swingers’ club if you think about it the only difference is not having to leave home.
With watching porn, you have the possibility to find new ways to have sex, take notes from the porn or role play and use that as a form of foreplay, even find new ways to please your man or woman by oral sex will be a huge help.
Then speaking of oral sex if you wanna include food into foreplay having some whipped cream and strawberries, feeding them to one another can be a big thing, or taking the whipped cream and putting it on each other and licking off one another’s bodies. Another that’s a huge favorite of mine is the fire and ice head. You take a peppermint and put it in your mouth suck on it for a little bit then put some ice in your mouth as well and slowly massage the head of your man’s penis with your tongue slowly going up and down. As the ice starts to melt let it drip down the shaft and as you’re coming down twirl the peppermint around it. Using this combo of the ice/peppermint will create a hot and cold feeling. The coldness from the ice will enhance the peppermint, as the warmth from your mouth melts the ice. So, he’s constantly feeling the hot and cold, it will be a sure thing to make him have an orgasm. Maybe while doing this so you both will be ready for each other at the same time, he can finger you while massaging your clit, or if you’re into it have him stick a thumb in your ass while fingering you. Just be mindful though between you sucking his dick and him fingering you, one of you may be bound to have an orgasm before the other and that’s perfectly fine.
As long as you know in the midst of this foreplay both people’s main concern was making sure the other was in the mood or relaxed that’s all that truly matters.
Lastly, taking a shower together. This is probably one of my favorite forms of intimacy because, it’s so many different senses being stimulated all at one time. The touch from the other person grazing across your body, letting the hot steamy water fill the bathroom as it hits your skin, the sweet taste of your partners lips, the aroma of the soap filling the shower. So many things that make a huge impact on what’s about to take place once you get out the shower. Even better there is no self-conscious feeling on if you smell good or if you may or may not have a scent since you both showered together.
Now keep in consideration all this doesn’t have to be done at one time but, it’s a good start for both the man and the woman. Just always be mindful and remember to take the time out to really love your partner and just truly admire them whether it be sexual or an act of service. These small things can go a very long way……
I came walking into the house and there she was lying there with nothing but a t-shirt on. No bra, panties, nothing but my t-shirt. I couldn’t help but admire the way it just fell on her curves as she looked up at me with those fuck me eyes. I stood there undressing her in my mind while wondering how she was gonna like the surprise I had for her. I take my clothes off and hop in the shower, as the waters running on my face I hear the door open but call out to ask who’s at the door…no response. Next thing I know I see the steam falling from the shower. I turn around and there she is with the most beautiful chocolate skin hair pulled up like she just waiting to get fucked. She steps in and tell me to turn back around. As I turn she whispers in my ear for me to close eyes…I feel her hands going down the ridges of my stomach as she lightly runs her nails over my waist…my dick jumps a little just off her touch. Chuckling she says “I see he’s ready for me”. As I stand there with my eyes still closed I start to feel her tongue slowly caressing the head of my dick, almost as if she’s tongue kissing it. I start to let out a moan under my breath she takes it all in little by little then sticks it down her throat and pulls it back out. As she starts slurping I try to reach for the door but she pushes it away, she instructs me to fuck her face and I do so with no hesitation. I grab her by her hair and start deep throating, fuck I love the way she sucks my dick. She looks up at me and smiles and shoved it back down with no warning and starts moaning. I can’t take this shit, I stand her up and tell her to bend over. As she bends over I see something dripping down her leg and she looks back and says “daddy I got a treat for you”…I smack her ass and it bounces right back. As I spread her open, her juices just dripping out looking like she been waiting for me. I kneel down and run my tongue across her clit then back up to suck up her juices….she starts moaning begging me to stop teasing her…..as I go back down I can see that pussy throbbing and juicy. I suck all her juices up like it was my last meal and begin dancing circles around her clit with my tongue, she’s begging me not to stop moving her hips back and forth as my tongue goes in and out her hole. As I’m sucking on her clit I stick my thumb in her ass and she loses it. I start sucking harder as I take my thumb in and out I feel her legs begin to shake I stand up and start fucking her. Shit this pussy feels so damn good, I shout as I’m smacking her ass. Her moans grew louder and louder as she tells me “babe I’m getting ready to cum but I wanna swallow em”. Shit that alone had me on brick, so I start going crazy fucking her so hard shee starts running, right when I pull her ass back I feel it building up, I turn her around real quick and she opens up her mouth sucking every last drop deep throating as I’m coming my legs start to give out and she keeps sucking. I damn near fell out the shower shit was so damn good…as we both step out I hear a knock on the door, she looks back at me and walks over to open it and low and behold her surprise was waiting at the door…….
Here recently and in the past I’ve asked women what’s something you really wanna talk about or something you feel you need help with when it comes to your sex life? The one thing that always seemed to come up was being on top. A lot of women you’ll ask what their favorite position is and most will say doggy style, missionary, or some other random position.
Me personally I’ll have to be honest, I never cared for being on top. I absolutely hated it, I despised it entirely. But, one thing I learned is a lot of being on top can be a mental thing. Also, many people don’t think too much about it but the person you’re experiencing this with can play a huge part in the experience you have from it.
Now the things I’ve learned that help a lot but aren’t so much a requirement are knowing how to move your hips. Being on top requires a lot of leg and hip strength. When you get on top some men like it when you twerk or bounce up and down on their dick, some like it when you grind back and forth and move your hips in a circular motion as it mimics when they’re masturbating.
One of the things I personally prefer is to twerk when I’m on top. It allows me more control, I’m able to go at my own speed or if I’m listening to music I can twerk to the song. That’s why I love listening to music when I’m on top because you can allow your hips to move to the music. Then from this position you can still be intimate with your man.
With this position he can grab you by the waist to increase your speed, suck on your breast, kiss your neck, smack your ass, there’s so much you two can do in this position and it still be a very intimate heightened experience for you both.
With being on top I’ve learned the essential are moving with your hips, having some type of stimulation whether it be foreplay while on top, clitoral stimulation, where your feet are placed (huge deal), and the way your positioned so that you can have a g-spot orgasm.
Stimulation isn’t necessary but man does it make for a better orgasm. Especially clitoral stimulation. A lot of people don’t realize the reason a woman can’t come is because their g-spot isn’t being reached. Even when a woman has a vaginal orgasm it’s not due to penetration it’s because the clitoris goes beyond being just an external orgasm. When you have sex you ever notice your woman saying “you hitting my spot” or signaling you to stay where you are? That’s because you’re stimulating her g-spot. For me in order to have a g-spot orgasm I have to be either sitting up straight and leaned back some so the head of his penis is hitting that area or leaned all the way forward and bouncing up and down and doing this hits the spot repeatedly.
I know too the issue many women have is their legs getting tired so making sure you are in a spot that comfortable is key to being on top. When you’re on top placing your feet under your mans legs helps IMMENSELY to create leverage for you, it keeps you steady and in place, and gives you more control over how tired you get.
Then one last thing I feel I can’t stress enough is SWITCH THINGS UP. You don’t have to go at full speed the entire time. That’s how you get burnt out easily. Going fast and slow, stopping to let your man play with your clit, smacking your ass, or leaning in for a passionate kiss makes the world of a difference. It increases your longevity for being on top and helps to make you even wetter which is even more pleasurable for him.
Okay I lied just one more thing lol, kegels. This is another MAJOR KEY when it comes to it being amazing for you and especially him. When you’re bouncing on top having control on your vaginal muscles helps so much. Squeezing and letting go gives your man the same effect that sucking his dick and creating a seal on the head so that your mouth presses on it. Or the feeling he gets when he masturbates and squeezes the head to make himself come faster. Many don’t realize they do kegels daily, when you sneeze your vagina muscles contract and even when you have to pee. So next time if you’re in the car driving or wherever practice doing them and gradually add time. You can start off holding them for 10 seconds then move up to 20, 30, and hell maybe even make it to being able to hold it for 1 minute!
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Okay now y’all this topic was the most popular chosen and frequently talked about so let’s dive into it (nope pun intended). Anal sex. Why….or why not? This is something a lot of women tend to shy away from, and men make fun of because, pleasuring a woman in her forbidden hole can be viewed as a homosexual act, although they generally are open to trying it more than women. The issue some women always have or the question they frequently ask me is will it hurt? It all depends on your mood in that moment, if you’re not relaxed which if you aren’t yes, it’s going to hurt like hell. Another thing that factors into it is if you’ve had a drink, or smoked a blunt prior to, the size of the man’s dick can play a huge role in either the amount of pleasure you can receive from it, position is something as well to be mindful of not every position will work the same for every person. The most import thing can or can’t be a factor is the person you’re doing it with. In my personal opinion anal sex isn’t meant to be had with everyone for various reasons. Lastly, HYGIENE, it’s a must that you make sure you’re clean prior to doing this because the worst and most embarrassing thing is having anal sex and something more comes that you were expecting it to.
Now let’s talk about the fear behind if it’ll hurt. Ladies when you’re trying to have anal sex being RELAXED is an absolute must. So, if you need to have a few drinks, take some shots, or take a few hits off a blunt. Whatever you need to, to get you in the mood. The more relaxed you are, the easier this experience will be. Next you always wanna make sure foreplay is involved. HEAVILY involved. Me personally I love to give head prior to anal sex because something about listening to a man moan while I’m pleasing him just helps me to relax and I love doing it. Or kissing, having a man suck on your breasts, receiving oral sex can be a huge help especially if you can nut prior to then this alone will really help you to loosen up and relax. Secondly, for the men, you have to realize yes this will definitely make you feel like your fucking a virgin again and you might just nut as soon as you slide in. But you gotta remember your girl has to be warmed up in order for it to be absolutely enjoyable for her. Even if you gotta start out doing doggy style and as you’re hitting her spot slowly stick your thumb in her butt and watch how crazy it drives her. It’ll especially be even more pleasurable for you because doggy style is the easiest way to reach her g-spot. So on top of all the nerve endings you’re affecting you’re making her wet as fuck.
Now one thing that I get asked is how can I make sure I’m clean? Me personally if I know it could be a possibility I want or if it’s discussed that anal sex may be a plan I will drink nothing but water that entire day and fast, high dose on vitamin C to help completely flush my body out, use an enema, or I will do a fruit fast because your body will use most of the fruit leaving with little to none being digested. But the most fool proof thing from my experience is to just high dose on vitamin C. You just wanna make sure you do it early in the day so you’re not needing to stop right in the middle of sex to use the bathroom. One product that I absolutely cannot live without is my Juicy Kitty soap. It’s all natural, smells bomb as fuck, and intensifies your orgasm as well. I don’t know what type of black girl magic she puts in this soap but whenever and even outside of that, that I know I’m getting some dick I make sure to always use this soap.
Another thing being does size matter? Ehhhh from personal experience yes, yes, the fuck it does. But what matters even more is do you have enough lube? If lube isn’t available you can always use any massage oil, CBD oil (which I’m sure will only heighten the experience), or use coconut oil. The key to this is making sure you have enough. Which you never can when doing anal sex. If it’s your first time on top of using oil, I highly recommend using a condom as the latex will help your man or woman to slide in effortlessly. You can even take this time to include some foreplay take the oil and pour it all over her ass and slowly watch it drip down. Then as it’s dripping down use the oil to massage her pussy and work your way up to her asshole and slowly start massaging it while sliding your finger in and out. Or if you’re into it eat it from the back while massaging her hole, let her ride your face and massage it. Literally the possibilities are endless when prepping for this.
The fun part comes in, now that you’ve prepped and got yourself all hot and ready for this it’s time to loosen things up. For me setting the mood with music and making sure I have alcohol and some trees in my system is a must. Now while you’re having sex if you’re a talker you can let your partner know that you’re ready, or if you’re more into the sub and dom lifestyle as you’re fucking you can flip her over then slowly insert. I always tell people if you’re just starting out the best way is usually spooning. Then you can have her leg up, play with her breast, finger her, play with her clit, some of everything in this position. Or if you’re a bit more experienced you can have her lie on her back and criss cross her legs, put her in doggy style that way you can smack her ass, choke her (responsibly now people), pull her hair, or massage her breasts while in this position. It may be a little bit of a struggle in the beginning, but always remember to go in slow to avoid traumatizing her/him because, doing this is generally what causes people not to wanna do it again. So, take your time and enjoy the moment. Once you’re in make sure you’re checking in to see she’s doing okay. More than likely she’ll be moaning or hell she might just come right on the spot. Most importantly, men, I know things can get wild and crazy when doing anal then when you feel how wet she is wanting to go straight to her pussy. Don’t. Just don’t. Always make sure if you are about to switch to vaginal sex you remove the condom to avoid transferring any bacteria and possibly giving her a UTI.
I really hope you all enjoyed reading this as much as I enjoyed writing it! If you have any topics you want me to further discuss for #FreakyFriday you can email at brujastoblunts@gmail.com, message me on Facebook at Ashley K Boyd Lmt, or DM on Instagram: Smoochhh94
One of my second most highly requested topics was oral sex. Whew now I’m gone say this as a disclaimer for my family reading either take some of these tips or sit on the sidelines and mind ya business lol. Now oral sex, some like giving, some like receiving. Some don’t like doing it at all. That’s okay, it ain’t for everyone. Me personally I like sucking dick more than receiving because, it’s like foreplay to me. For some reason it gets me warmed up and I’ve been told I do it with such a passion it doesn’t even be so much of how good I do it. It’s the fact I do that shit like I love it.
Now I can’t really speak for men in terms of how to eat pussy, except when your girl is telling you to do a certain thing DO NOT DO THE OPPOSITE. Also, I feel like with eating pussy especially unless you’ve truly studied a woman and how she masturbates and just how she makes herself orgasm the things you do are for your ego and not so much her benefit. Even if it’s not your first-time eating pussy always ask her what are things she likes, how does she like it, ask her where she wanna get her pussy ate. Never act like you King to this shit you always wanna get a womans opinion. Secondly, men please please please stop licking our damn vagina just stop. Unless your tongue is as wide and long as your dick please cut the shenanigans. I can’t really speak for most women but if I’m gonna get head I wanna fucking come. Fuck the bullshit. A lot of women always say ugh girl you don’t like head you missing out I love that shit. Don’t get me wrong I like it but I have yet to have anyone actually make me come from it. I was watching a video from this guy on Instagram @hunitdaysofsummer and he explains how he observed how women play with their clit and just the movement and all that. It wasn’t until he learned to mimic that, that he made multiple women orgasm back to back. Now men how many of y’all can say with no hesitation if need be you can make a woman come guarantee just off head? Yes? No? Like if your girl came to you now and says I got something for you to eat you can have her ass shaking begging you to stop because how bone chilling her orgasm is?
Another thing that I personally love is when I’m getting head and the guy is playing with my g spot. Most don’t know the clit and the g spot are legit the same exact thing. One is just internal one is external. When you’re giving your woman head next time you eat her out use your tongue to mimic the way she plays with herself and as you do this finger her but focus on her g spot and I swear to you she’s guaranteed to orgasm. Even so which brings me to, a lot of of people don’t know even when you’re fucking a girl she doesn’t come off vaginal penetration it’s because you’re stimulating her G spot from the inside. Which is why when we moan out and scream you’re hitting my spot we tell y’all stay right there and don’t move.
Okay now, that’s enough on how y’all should be eating our pussy. Ladies, sucking dick. How many of y’all do it just because your man likes it? How many do it because you simply love it? Most women I’ve asked stated they do it because they love doing the shit. They love how it feels in their mouth, how it feels when they’re sucking and feel that shit growing. That’s why when given it’s done with such a passion. Another thing that helps you suck dick so much better is do it like you French kissing the dick. Lick the head, play with the balls, deep throat it, then when you get it deep enough use your throat to suck it and move the dick with your throat. That shit alone gone have the man toes curling I swear to you. As you do this too hum on the dick so as your throat is squeezing on it he can feel the vibrations too. When you come back up take a deep breath and jack the dick off while it’s nice and juicy. Then while you got him on edge suck just on the head alone. See for men the head of their dick is truly just an enlarged clit so ladies go fucking crazy.
Another huge thing is pay attention to his body language, to how his dick feel when it stiffens in your mouth. This will help eliminate any need for talking unless you one of those who dick is this daddy females then sis go the fuck off then.
One more thing that I want you to try if you haven’t already is Fire and Ice head. This is my personal favoriiiite, grab you a bowl of ice a couple peppermints suck on the peppermint first for a bit and put some ice in your mouth. Pretty much repeat the steps above and I promise your man will love you for it. The cold from the peppermint and ice and warmth from your mouth plus deep throating will have the man wanting to flip you over and satisfy his hunger.
Now I am not responsible for any pregnancies, lock jaw, or sore throats this blog may bring. So eat pussy and suck dick responsibly folks 👅💦
I’m sure y’all are looking at this title thinking it’s gonna be a reference about the singer prince buuut it’s not. So recently I’ve been talking about the yoni, vagina, pocketbook, whatever it is your call your womb. But, realizing a lot of women aren’t fully educated on their vagina, what it does, what it needs, the things it does when it’s trying to communicate with you about issues you may have or attention she needs. Now I’m sure you’re probably like how in the world can my vagina communicate with me? Just like our bodies it may not actually be able to talk but, it has its ways of telling us what it doesn’t like, what you need to stop doing, what you need more of, and things of that nature.
Now the first thing I wanna dive into is these commercial vaginal or “feminine” washes. All these washes state that they are formulated to help keep the vagina balanced, help remove odor and all that good stuff. But at the same time most don’t really look at the fact a lot of those washes have fragrance and fragrance isn’t something that the vagina needs in order to remain balanced. If anything, it only causes issues such as ph imbalance, UTI’s, BV (bacterial vaginosis), yeast infections and other issues. The rule of thumb I generally go by is if the ingredient list is way too long or you can’t pronounce any of the words you don’t need to be using it on your vagina. Most will try and argue and say oh well they have to use the scientific name for it. Even then that still doesn’t justify why they are using harmful chemicals in a feminine wash. Then not to mention, all those imbalances aren’t the only complications a woman can obtain from the use. Using these can cause pelvic cancer, ovarian cancer, ovarian cyst, PSOC, endometriosis, for some it can cause hemorrhaging or as most know heavy bleeding during your period.
The sad part about this is, most of these companies won’t tell you or give you a disclaimer or state what can happen. Kind of like medications or drugs doctors prescribe how they have to trial runs and have people test them to be able to say what side effects could come about. Such as nausea, death, heart attack, blood clots all that. But for women they don’t think it’s necessary to disclose this info. Granted these feminine washes and hell even pads and tampons aren’t the only cause of this. But they don’t even go into all the other shit that causes this because, at the end of the day it’s about the money. They make these commercials with these women smiling and all this good stuff and highlight the benefits but nobody wants to talk about the damaging effects it can have. Let’s not forget to mention how many women suffer from not being able to have children.
Now, circling back to not having children or not being able to. Birth control. The first thing as a teenager your parents want to do is put you on birth control. When you have your baby as SOON as you get done, they sneak it in and ask if you plan on using birth control or they’ll act like they care and ask how many children do you plan on having. Let’s not add how much birth control is pushed like it’s going out of style on Black women.
I’ve been on every single birth control known to man except the 10-year, patch, and the uva ring. I couldn’t really take pills due to past experiences; I had the Implanon or Nexplanon whichever it’s called I dealt with severely dry skin, horrible acne, I had acne covering my entire back every time I turned around, I had another pimple. Then I was gaining weight, I felt like I was becoming depressed, the list goes on. Then after I finally got that birth control removed, I decided the I.U.D was an AMAZING idea (peep the sarcasm). As well as the infamous Depo shot *major eye roll*.
So, I got this the day I went to the doctor’s office I asked the usual what to expect and how long does it stay in. She explained little to no side effects and it would be in for 3 years. Times goes by I notice I develop an odor in my vagina. At first I’m thinking it could be due to diet or water consumption. Nope that wasn’t it. Made sure I was using the right feminine wash and fully drying myself down there. That wasn’t helping either. Over time the odor just became stronger and stronger to the point it was lingering on my clothes even after taking them off and washing them. Down the line I tell myself I can’t do this, so I make an appt to see the dr again to have it removed. I explain to her the other symptoms I’m experiencing but my main concern being the foul odor I had. Mind you, as I’m lying in the table you can smell the odor and the doctor just proceeds to say “it’s not that big of a deal and it’ll go away”. Mind you I’ve had this odor for over 3 months now and I’ve did everything I can to get rid of it and to no avail never did. So, I tell her in the sternest voice possible I do not want this IUD any longer. I don’t give a damn about if I get pregnant just take it out. She turns and rolls her eyes as she takes out new tools to remove it. As she opens me up to take the IUD out all I can think of is the relief I’m going to get. Once it’s removed, I feel such a weight lifted from my shoulders and she quickly throws it in the garbage folded in the paper towel and leaves the room for me to redress. Me being curious I take the neatly folded paper towel out of the trash can and something told me to smell the IUD. Just as I suspected the IUD had old period blood, and built up debris on it. Which is what was causing me to have such a foul odor that resembled dead fish and a rotting corpse. Then to fucking think this doctor thought I wanted this to stay inside me???? That alone just goes to show these doctors not only don’t care about women’s health at all, they really don’t give a single fuck about black women or their health. Just off the strength they are doing whatever they need to keep us from procreating because, they know the power we hold so whatever they can do to stop it they will.
With birth control one thing I learned is, if you absolutely can avoid it please do. These doctors will try to persuade you in any way they can to get on it and as I stated before list all the benefits not being pregnant being one of them, but also to promote weight loss, help clear up your skin, along with not having a period. You see all that sounds good but your body is legit falling apart from the inside out. How would you feel if you needed your hand to write and someone told you oh you don’t need that then just proceeded to chop it off and you’re just standing there doing everything that it is you can to help and fight it but there’s nothing that you can do about it. That’s how your body feels when you take birth control. You’re literally blocking out the hormones that were put into your body to help it function on a day to day basis.
Most don’t know there are plenty of alternatives to birth control or dealing with the issues that it is you have. I get it at a certain point in your life everyone doesn’t want to wait for the time it takes the body to heal so birth control can be used as a quick fix or a band aid as I like to call it. Some of the alternatives to not having to use birth control are diet change, removing dairy, processed food and sugar, as well as meat. All of these things have an extremely high acid content which isn’t good for the body or the vagina itself. Especially considering the vagina has a pH of 3.8-4.5 to help the body ward off any bacteria or possible infections. Second is black seed oil, now I’ve read this from multiple women about the benefits and how it’s a natural contraceptive. The thing with it is you have to make sure you apply it to the vagina before and after as well. It also helps to start menstruation as well!
Another form of course is abstinence but I don’t think I need to go to deep into that since it may be self-explanatory. If not, pretty much abstaining from having sex, well, vaginal sex at least lol. The second is learning your body. Now I know that may seem hard but, when is the last time you truly studied your body like a work of art? Or just took the time out to really pay attention to it? Paying attention to your body temperature, the consistency of your discharge, or if you’re like me you can feel when your body is releasing an egg. You can also find various apps to track your period as well. That was how I got started off in really starting to pay attention to my body and I just went from there. Granted there are women that have health issues and some don’t even have a period or they have irregular periods. Then that just means your diet may need to be assessed to see ways you can help to regulate it without the use of foreign chemicals.
The last thing I wanna talk about is vaginal maintenance, or external and some internal vaginal care. Along with the do’s and the don’ts. For me personally some of the things I do to keep me in order, not always but like I said try. Yoni steaming once a week, especially after a period. Steaming helps to remove any items that may be lodged in the vagina. It also helps with PCOS, fibroids, cysts, all different types of ailments. But I particularly like to use them after my period it’s kinda like my reset button. If I don’t have a steam available I’ll use a tightening wand. Now with this it serves more than one purpose, it helps to balance your pH because as we all may know periods have that affect, it helps to increase your overall vaginal tightness, and it’s helps to remove any odor you may have, and it has a very detoxing effect to it as well. Another thing that I’ve learned is a core necessity making sure you always drink water. I’ve learned so much over the years how much not only your body needs it but your vagina. If you’re not drinking water your body tends to produce more discharge to account for what’s not being put in. Now all discharge isn’t bad discharge but too much can be an issue down the line. So drinking water ensures your body is able to properly flush itself and keeps any bacteria that shouldn’t be there away. Although it has been said and proven the vagina is a self cleaning organ. Which is why it has the pH that it does or you may notice when you wear dark underwear that it looks bleached.
I also love to use yoni eggs as well. They help with sooooo many different things I use mines for more energy-based purposes or if I’ve had sex and feel I need energy removed. It also helps to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles, which is amazing for women who have had kids. The yoni eggs come in all different types of healing crystals and sizes. I always say when dealing with your womb it’s best to start off with Rose Quartz because of it being the crystal of love and self-love towards your yoni, which is extremely important, clear quartz because you can program it and speak into it whatever you’d like. Also, if available since it can be hard to find, obsidian or black tourmaline. These both work amazing for warding off negative energy and also helping to remove it as well.
Speaking of removing, I can’t say I have to use them often but yoni or diva pearls. These are more so to be used for more serious cases or if your vagina needs a factory rest for lack of a better word. Diva pearls are formulated with vaginal safe herbs that help to remove any debris or blockages in the vagina. Some women have reported old blood clots from periods coming out, dead skin that wasn’t shedded from the uterine lining prior to a period. If you have PCOS, fibroids, or cysts many have reported seeing big clumps come out after using more than one cleanse.
Lastly, to some this may be a double-edged sword but douching. Now as we know we’ve been told by our doctors, and health sources how unsafe douching is because it can throw off your pH and it takes away the good bacteria that you need. But when you’re using douches from the store that simply focus on removing odor and not helping your vaginal health yes, douching isn’t recommended at all. But, I’ve used douches for the first time that were actually formulated for my vagina and are made with natural herbs and spring water not chemically based and not only did it help but it made me feel fresher and also helped removed any buildup I might’ve had after period and also before a period. When these products are made, they just combat the one thing women don’t wanna deal with, odor. But it doesn’t address all issues, it more so covers up the odor instead of helping to balance your pH. That’s like KNOWING you need to take a shower but instead spraying perfume on to cover up the smell instead of actually addressing the issue. It may help temporarily but, it does not take away the fact you have an odor and what could be causing it. That’s why all the things I listed are simply that maintenance. It’s always best to consult with your doctor then from there do your own research and see ways you can improve your yoni. I truly truly truly hope this helps so many women out there and even men to have a better understanding of how our vagina works because, baby health class can’t and won’t teach you all this. So, let me know what y’all thought of this blog and if you’d like more informative blogs like this! Don’t forget to like, comment, and share this to your Facebook ❤️ I will list several black businesses you can purchase the yoni eggs, steams, soaps, detox pearls and more from down below…
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