Hey everyone! It’s been such a long time since I’ve posted but this is something that’s been on my mind heavy so I felt why not put it out there.

So recently there’s been a lot of talk about male trauma, childhood to be specific. One of the things that’s been heavily spoken upon is how men are forced to suppress their emotions.

I was talking with a friend and discussing his natal chart and mentioned how he needed to get in touch with his “Cancer Moon”. For those that aren’t familiar with the zodiac sign Cancer is apart of the water sign and is in control of home along with our emotional side. As most know Cancer has a rap of being one of the most emotional Zodiac signs. Which isn’t so much a bad thing, just means they love and feel things deeper than most.

Now to the point. What I meant by, get in touch with your Cancer Moon, was to embrace his emotions. As kids boys too often are told to man up, don’t cry, suck it up, or deal with emotions they aren’t taught how to work through. So, naturally that turns into anger. Then as time goes on, for a lot of men that anger becomes a security blanket. It’s there go to. It’s how they show their assertiveness. How they feel secure in themselves.

I say this to say, one thing at times we as women can tend to do is disregard their feelings when they are tired, sad, depressed, or exhausted. A friend was telling me how she was in the mood for sex but her boyfriend was mentally and physically exhausted from everything he had going on. Part of her wanted to wake him up out of his sleep to fulfill her needs. Then there was a part of her that said “how would you feel if you were in his shoes and you weren’t in the mood and he forced you to have sex?”. Then she thought to herself she’d feel disrespected and violated. So she dealt with the emotions that came with the urge cuddled her man, rubbed his back, massaged his scalp and drifted off to sleep.

Most men won’t voice this but consider they talk about their boundaries often I’m sure her boyfriend greatly appreciated her for respecting that boundary.

Too often men don’t have the chance for someone to sit them down and ask what are your boundaries? What are/aren’t you okay with? I wanna finish this off with saying if you have a man in your life whether it be a partner, boyfriend, fiancé, or husband and discuss their boundaries. You’d be surprised with what they may have to say!